Avoiding Contempt When a Child Refuses to Visit with a Parent

 

Child refuses to visit with parent during custodial exchangeCustodial parents face a difficult issue when a minor child refuses to visit with the other parent. This refusal may result from alienation, anger, and sometimes fear. The situation is increasingly problematic as the child approaches the age of majority (18 years old). In some cases, the child’s mental heath is at-issue due to familial turmoil or stress related to the divorce. In these situations, parents often wonder what they should do when their child refuses to visit with them or the other parent.

Further complicating the matter is the dearth of controlling principles or law in these cases. Courts in Bucks County custody matters, for example, have taken wildly divergent approaches to such situations. Sometimes it depends on which judge is hearing the matter. Our firm was involved in one case where the judge told the child during the custody hearing that the court was not going to make the child do “anything he didn’t want to do.” Essentially, the court granted that child carte blanche to control the situation and, by extension, the parents.

When a child refuses to visit a parent, the custodial parent and the attorney are put in a tenuous position.

On one hand, the custodial parent doesn’t want to face penalties or possible jail-time for violating a court-imposed custody schedule. The custodial parent’s attorney has a duty to help the client avoid these situations. But on the other hand, the parent naturally wants to protect the child from potential psychological or physical trauma resulting from forcing the child to visit an untrustworthy parent.

Sometimes, judges will lay the blame entirely on the custodial parent and his or her alleged inability to control the child. The court may also discount or outright ignore compelling evidence of the child’s psychological distress. The custodial parent then is threatened with incarceration or a change in primary custody unless they physically force the defiant child to follow the custody schedule. These are serious situations, and they do occur.

What does the court do when a child refuses to visit with a parent?

judge banging gavel to symbolize ruling on case where child refuses to visit parentToo often judges fail to recognize and aptly consider the traumatizing effects that the parents’ relationship with each other and with the child may have had on the child’s psyche. They are inclined to impose and enforce visitation schedules in a robotic-like manner without actually considering the best interests of the child. Why? A parent’s impulse to protect a child is primal. So why would a court seek to intervene by forcing a custody schedule that may be damaging to the child? 

First of all, the court has a mandate to protect the best interests of the child. This includes assuring a relationship with both parents inasmuch as it is possible. Courts look unfavorably on parents who seek to limit the other spouse’s contact with a child. They are naturally skeptical when arguments are put forth todo that. They want to avoid situations in which kids won’t visit the other parent for trivial reasons, such as no proximity to friends at the other home, or the inconvenience of having to pack up clothing and school supplies, etc. to go to another house. Sometimes one parent is simply unwilling to relinquish the children. These situations reflect about 90% of the custody disputes out there. They are not legitimate reasons for refusing to follow court orders.

However, it is not unheard of that a threat to a child’s well-being exists. Or the custodial parent is simply unable to physically force an older child to follow the custody schedule.

In instances of a child refusal’s, there are a few options parents can take.

1.  When your child refuses to visit with the other parent, document your attempts to adhere to the custody schedule

First, the custodial parent should document every step he or she takes to adhere to the schedule. Record dates and times your child refuses and the circumstances surrounding the refusal. Record your attempts to have the child honor the custody schedule. In the case of older children, record attempts to discuss possible consequences from refusals and the possibility that the custody order can be altered to even greater detriment. List every concern or development that results in your inability to adhere to the schedule.

2.  Hire a child psychologist to review and evaluate your child’s reasons for the refusal

psychologist talking to child regarding refusal to visit parent

Second, hire a child psychologist or therapist, and have the child’s fears and concerns documented by someone other than yourself. Often, a child may not want to openly discuss their issues with the other parent with the custodial parent. A therapist may be able to learn more about what is the root cause of the child’s refusal. Follow through with several appointments such that firm information can be gathered. Appraise your spouse ahead of time that you will be taking the child to a therapist. Provide the therapist’s name, address and contact information. This will demonstrate a responsible attitude of cooperation and disclosure on your part.

You’ll want to have the therapist testify in court about his or her findings. The therapist will need to appear and serve as a witness at any court proceedings regarding the custody schedule. This can be expensive. However, in the court’s eyes, such testimony will provide unbiased evidence that there is a legitimate threat to the child’s well-being.

3.  Request that an independent attorney represent your child

In extreme circumstances, one final tactic would be for the custodial parent to request that the child be appointed his or her own attorney. We discuss this option in our next article.

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Child Custody Relocation in PA: What You Need To Know

The State of Pennsylvania recently amended the law affecting relocation in child custody cases. Parents in the midst of a divorce should take time to read the new custody law changes. These are particularly relevant for any parent involved in a Pennsylvania custody case or with a child subject to a Pennsylvania custody order. The law is also important for any parent contemplating relocating.

Whether the proposed relocation involves moving to a different county, state, or even country, it is important for you to know how to navigate through the newly enacted legal provisions that govern this issue. Failure to carefully follow the new procedures may adversely impact your case.

The new PA child custody statute went into effect on January 24, 2011 and only applies to new petitions filed after that date. Thus, if your child custody relocation case started before January 24, 2011, the old law will govern your case. All relocation cases filed after January 24, 2011 are subject to the new law. The provisions of the new PA custody laws regarding relocations are as follows.

1.    A New Notice Requirement for Relocation

One of the most significant changes in the new PA custody law is the notice requirement. The party intending to move or relocate must provide the other party with notice of his or her intent to move to the other party. Under the new law, the party seeking to move must provide notice to every person who has custody rights to the child by certified mail, return receipt requested.

This notice must be given at least 60 or more days before the date of the proposed move. Notice is also sufficient if given on or before the 10th day after the day the party knows of the move. However, for this notice, the party must not know and could not reasonably have known of the relocation in sufficient time to comply with the 60 days notice AND it is not reasonably possible to delay the date of relocation so as to comply with the 60 day notice.

The notice must also provide comprehensive information about the new residence. This includes the new address and phone number, and name of the new school district and school. Furthermore, notice should also include reasons for the proposed relocation and a proposal for a revised custody schedule. Additionally, a counter-affidavit is required. This affidavit must include a warning to the non-relocating party that if he or she does not file an objection with the court within 30 days after receipt of notice, that party loses his or her right to object to the move. If the relocating party fails to notify the non-moving parent with proper notice, the court may draw a negative inference from that failure.

2.    Factors Governing a Party’s Right to Relocate with the Child

If the non-relocating party objects to the move, a hearing will be held to determine if the relocation is in the best interest of your child. The burden is on the party proposing the move to show the court that relocation is in the child’s best interest. However, each party has the burden of establishing the integrity of his or her motives for relocation or for opposing the move. The court may also consider the following factors during a relocation hearing:

  • The nature, quality, extent of involvement and duration of the child’s relationships with each parent, siblings, and other significant people in the child’s life;
  • The age, development, needs of the child and the impact relocation will have on the child’s physical, educational, and emotional development;
  • The feasibility of maintaining the relationship between the child and non-moving parent;
  • The child’s preference;
  • Whether the move will enhance the quality of life for the parent and child (e.g., financial and/or educational opportunities); and
  • Any other best interest factor.

The new PA custody law provides the requirements and framework that must be followed. These are important if you are considering relocating and you are involved in a PA child custody case or your children are subject to a PA child custody order. This is also important if your former partner is considering relocation. The Bucks County divorce and custody attorneys at Cooley & Handy can help you navigate through this process.

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How to Get Divorced in Pennsylvania

“How do I get divorced in Pennsylvania?” This is probably the most frequent and seemingly simple question that Cooley & Handy gets from our family law clients. Unfortunately there is no simple answer.

All Pennsylvania divorces are officially started by the filing of a divorce complaint in the Court of Common Pleas, generally in the county in which one of the parties resides. However, there are many paths that a divorce may take prior to the entry of a final divorce decree depending on the particular circumstances of the case.

Keep in mind that every divorce is different, and can break off into any number of directions and complications. You should rely on a good attorney to do the work for you. Nevertheless, here is a quick look at process for those interested in how to get divorced in Pennsylvania.

1. Establish a Date of Separation

Often, the first step in obtaining a divorce in Pennsylvania is to establish a date of legal separation. This starts the clock ticking for certain waiting periods. The date of separation is also important because it establishes a cut-off date for the acquisition of marital assets to be divided in the divorce, and for the accumulation of marital debt.

A date of legal separation can be established in one of two ways:

  1. By filing a divorce complaint. The law presumes that the date of separation is the date on which the divorce complaint is filed, unless a party can establish an alternate date.
  2. Through conduct. For example, by moving out of the marital residence, or by moving into another bedroom. By declaring to your spouse, friends and family that you are separated. Remember that it is possible to undo the date of separation by, for example, having marital relations. That will, in effect, cancel the prior date of separation, and a new date of separation will need to be established.

2. File for Divorce

The divorce complaint is usually filed in the county in which you reside. If you live in Bucks County, your divorce complaint will be filed in the Court of Common Pleas of Bucks County. However, if your spouse lives in another state, it raises several complex issues. You may need to file in the state in which your spouse resides. But in general, if you and your spouse have lived in Pennsylvania for more than six months, residency requirements should not be an issue.

3. Process the Divorce

The next step is to process the divorce. In simple divorces processing the divorce can be straightforward. A simple divorce is one in which both parties agree to the divorce and are not asking the court to award support or alimony, divide marital assets or order other relief. Still, the process involves executing and filing all of the necessary forms in the right order and at the right time. These include:

  • affidavits of service or acceptances of service;
  • consents or affidavits of separation;
  • notices or waivers of notice; and
  • a praecipe for a grounds order or for the divorce decree.

Where one spouse will not agree to the divorce, or where issues such as discovery, document requests, appraisals, interim hearings, support, alimony, or equitable distribution must be resolved, processing the divorce is much more complicated.

In the event that a settlement is not reached, you will need a Master’s hearing on economic issues. You may possibly also need a trial before a judge, after which the divorce can be processed.

4. Request the Court to Enter the Divorce Decree

Only after all outstanding issues are resolved and the necessary paperwork is filed with the court can a party move a divorce to conclusion. Once these steps are completed, you are nearly finished getting divorced. The final step is to file a praecipe for entry of a divorce decree. Generally, spouses no longer sign divorce papers. The decree arrives unobtrusively in the mail or, if you are represented, is sent to your attorney.

The length of time that it takes to get divorced in Pennsylvania can be anywhere from about 5 months to several years. This depends on the grounds for the divorce, the cooperation or lack thereof from the other spouse, and the issues involved in the divorce.

NEXT: WHAT STEPS SHOULD YOU TAKE TO PREPARE FOR DIVORCE IN PENNSYLVANIA?

HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET DIVORCED IN PENNSYLVANIA?

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Social Security Retirement Benefits and Divorce – What are YOU entitled to?

If you are in the midst of a divorce, Social Security retirement benefits may not be on your mind. This is especially true if you are relatively young and far from retirement. However, the potential affect of divorce on Social Security retirement benefits is an important consideration in negotiating the terms of a marital settlement agreement. The Bucks County divorce lawyers at Cooley & Handy often encounter questions about how divorce effects entitlement to Social Security retirement benefits in the future.

Social Security benefits are not considered part of your marital property to be divided in divorce. However, your divorce may impact both your right to claim benefits under your ex-spouse’s work history and the amount of benefits you or your ex-spouse are eligible to receive upon retirement. Therefore, it is important to consider this impact in financial planning for life after divorce.

Specifically, if you make less money than your ex-spouse, you may be able to collect benefits under his or her work history. This may allow you to receive a higher benefit than what you would be entitled to under your own work history. This increase may have a substantial effect on the lifestyle you are able to enjoy upon retirement.

Rights of a Divorced Spouse to an Ex-Spouse’s Social Security Retirement Benefits

If you are divorced, you can receive Social Security retirement benefits based on your ex-spouse’s work history if the following requirements are met:

  1. The marriage lasted 10 years or longer;
  2. You are currently unmarried;
  3. You are age 62 or older;
  4. Your ex-spouse is entitled to Social Security retirement benefits (i.e., he or she is 62 or older and has a long enough work history to receive benefits); AND
  5. The benefit you are entitled to receive based on your own work history is less than the benefit you would receive based on your ex’s work history. In other words, your benefit must not exceed half of your ex-spouse’s benefit.

Even if your ex-spouse is not retired, you may be able to collect under his or her work history if you have been divorced for over two years and all of the above requirements are met.

One very important consideration in divorce is Social Security’s 10-year rule (that your marriage must have lasted 10 years or more to collect under your spouse’s work history). If you are divorcing and the marriage has lasted close to ten years, it may be beneficial to intentionally delay the final divorce decree until the marriage has lasted ten years to qualify both spouse’s to potentially collect under the work history of the other.

Remarriage, Death, and Second Divorces

If you remarry, you will be unable to collect benefits on your ex-spouse’s work record UNLESS your later marriage ends by death, divorce or annulment. If your second marriage ends by death, divorce or annulment, you may be able to collect the larger of (1) the benefit based on your own work history, (2) the benefit based on your first spouse’s work record and (3) the benefit based on your second spouse’s work record, assuming that all of the above requirements are met.

It is important to note that if an ex-spouse is eligible to collect under your work history, it will have no effect on the amount of benefits you or your current spouse will receive.

Prior to agreeing to any divorce settlement, you should have a competent attorney analyze your financial situation, including your potential Social Security retirement benefits. The Bucks County divorce attorneys at Cooley & Handy can provide this advice.

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Cooley & Handy Secures Extraordinary Stay of Alimony Pendente Lite Order Entered in Bucks County Divorce Proceedings from the Superior Court of Pennsylvania

The Superior Court of Pennsylvania took the rare step of staying a completely unprecedented and legally erroneous alimony pendente lite order entered against an ex-husband in a Bucks County divorce action by the Hon. Alan M. Rubenstein.

The stay of the alimony pendente lite order was obtained through the efforts of the Bucks County divorce lawyers at Cooley & Handy. Alimony pendente lite is court-ordered support paid to a spouse while a divorce is pending, purportedly to help the spouse pay for litigation costs.

In the underlying Bucks County divorce case, the Bucks County divorce court purportedly “reinstated” a previously vacated (terminated) alimony pendente lite order against ex-Husband almost three years after the trial court entered final judgment in the parties’ divorce and on all claims regarding the division of marital assets. The order was entered during post-divorce litigation over the parties’ marital property settlement agreement and a prenuptial agreement that ex-wife had failed to produce during divorce proceedings. In short, the ongoing litigation concerned which contractual agreement – the marital settlement agreement or the prenuptial agreement – would control the distribution of the marital property and other claims. Notably, ex-wife had waived alimony pendente lite in both contracts. Nevertheless, the Bucks County divorce court erroneously awarded ex-wife alimony pendente lite in direct contravention to the terms of the contractual agreements and Pennsylvania law in a misguided and legally improper effort to make the post-divorce litigation “fair.”

In ex-husband’s appeal of the alimony pendente lite order, Cooley & Handy argued that the Bucks County divorce court’s alimony pendente lite order was erroneous because (1) ex-wife waived alimony pendente lite in both the parties’ marital property settlement agreement and the parties’ prenuptial agreement and at least one of those contracts will be enforceable, and (2) entry of the divorce decree in the case three years earlier forever terminated ex-wife’s claim to alimony pendente lite. In addition, the Bucks County divorce lawyers at Cooley & Handy argued that 23 Pa. C.S. 3105(c) statutorily precludes a trial court from altering or amending martial rights previously resolved by contractual agreement (i.e. the marital settlement agreement and the prenuptial agreement).

To obtain the stay of the alimony pendente lite order from Superior Court of Pennsylvania, Cooley & Handy argued that ex-husband would likely be successful in his appeal and would suffer irreparable harm if a stay were not granted.

Ex-husband faced a very high burden to obtain a stay from the Superior Court, which grants stays judiciously. Cooley & Handy argued ex-husband would likely be successful in his appeal for the reasons set forth above. With regard to irreparable harm, Cooley & Handy argued that ex-husband would suffer irreparable harm for several reasons. First, Cooley & Handy argued the trial court violated a clear statutory mandate (23 Pa. C.S. § 3105(c)) when it modified the terms of the parties’ marital settlement and prenuptial agreements by “reinstating” alimony pendente lite, which constitutes irreparable harm per se. A violation of a statutory mandate is deemed to be irreparable harm per se. See, e.g., Capepiello v. Duca, 449 Pa. Super. 100, 107, 672 A.2d 1373, 1377 (1996). Second, Cooley & Handy argued that the trial court clearly exceeded its jurisdiction in awarding Ex-Wife alimony pendente lite after the parties’ divorce and equitable distribution claims had been finally resolved and, as in the case of an explicit statutory violation, the exercise of power by a trial court in excess of its jurisdiction should be deemed irreparable harm per se. Finally, the Bucks County divorce lawyers at Cooley & Handy argued that the Superior Court had previously recognized that alimony pendente lite orders can result in the irreparable loss of rights where a divorce is not pending in Sutliff v. Sutliff, 326 Pa. Super. 496, 474 A.2d 599 (1984) and Fried v. Fried, 509 Pa. 89, 501 A.2d 211 (1985).

In a significant legal victory for ex-husband, the Superior Court of Pennsylvania granted ex-husband a stay of the alimony pendente lite order while the merits of his appeal are decided.

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As the Economy Rises, So Does the Divorce Rate

In May 2010 we wrote about how the great recession had caused couples to put their divorces on hold due to the loss of employment and decreases in the value of their assets. Federal figures suggest the divorce rate fell about 7% between 2006 and 2009.

National Public Radio now reports that with the improving economy the divorce rate is once again on the rise.

Because banks are now more willing to lend money, divorcing people can now borrow money more easily to buy out their spouse’s interest in a home or family business. The stock market has also recovered, causing divorcing couples to feel more secure in their financial ability to separate. Finally, couples that put their divorces on hold during the depth of the recession a created pent-up demand for divorce, and many of those couples are no longer willing to wait to get divorced.

Cooley & Handy, in accord with the article, has experienced a recent spike in new clients seeking divorce in Bucks County and Montgomery County Pennsylvania.

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Cooley & Handy Successfully Argues for Application of “Paternity by Estoppel” Doctrine in Bucks County Custody Case

February 18, 2009 – Cooley & Handy Successfully Argues in Bucks County Custody Matter that “Paternity by Estoppel” is Applicable where Biological Father Failed to Challenge Putative Father’s Acknowledgement of Paternity for Nine Years Despite Actual Knowledge of Probability that Child was his Biological Child.

The trial court in a Bucks County custody matter recently accepted Cooley & Handy’s paternity by estoppel argument that a biological father should be prevented from challenging a putative father’s legal paternity of a child because the biological father had failed to challenge the putative father’s acknowledgement of paternity for nine years, despite knowledge of facts suggesting he might be the biological father.

In K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S., one day after the child was born, putative father signed an acknowledgement of paternity and his name was added to the birth certificate. Although the parties (mother and putative father) were not married, they had been involved in a long-term relationship and lived as a family with their daughter for approximately two years after her birth when the couple separated. Soon after the couple first separated, mother and putative father worked out a custody arrangement pursuant to which putative father exercised partial physical custody of the child. Custody litigation thereafter ensued between mother and putative father regarding modification to the agreed custody arrangement. In all relevant pleadings there was no indication that there were any other potential fathers.

Unbeknownst to putative father, around or about August 2008, mother and the biological father, in connection with recent custody litigation instigated by mother, submitted to DNA testing on themselves, as well as the child. The testing determined that there was a 99.99% probability that biological father fathered the child. Soon thereafter, biological father filed a Complaint for Custody of the child. A custody hearing was held before the Bucks County Court of Common Pleas on biological father’s custody petition in late 2008 on the narrow issue of when biological father learned of mother’s pregnancy and the extent of his knowledge in that regard.

At the hearing, biological father explained that, after mother learned of her pregnancy, they discussed her circumstances. He noted that at that time he did think he might be the father- that there was “a chance.” However, mother testified that she did, in fact, tell him when she discovered that she was pregnant and during the pregnancy that there was a possibility that he could be the father, although she was not certain of this due to her doctor’s explanation of her period of conception. In addition, biological father acknowledged that he has lived within five to ten miles of mother and putative father since the child’s birth and they all have mutual friends.

Notwithstanding this information, as well as his physical proximity to this family during the entire duration of the child’s life, biological father admitted that he never attempted to seek custodial rights over the child until 2008 (8 1/2 years after the child’s birth) and had never financially supported the child. He further conceded that he knew putative father had acknowledged paternity and “served as father to [the child] in all sense of the word over the past eight years,” yet never confronted putative father regarding paternity issues. Biological father also testified that, in the past, friends who live next door to mother had suggested he and the child looked alike, causing him to wonder whether or not she was his child. Still, he took no action.

In contrast, putative Father testified that before 2008, when the custody litigation ensued, he was never informed that biological father could have fathered his daughter. To this end, he stated, he has never been subjected to a DNA test regarding his daughter. Based on these facts, Cooley & Handy argued that biological father should be precluded from challenging putative father’s legal paternity and from seeking custody of the child based on the doctrine of “paternity by estoppel.”

The Supreme Court of Pennsylvania has addressed the doctrine of paternity by estoppel (or equitable estoppel), and stated that “under certain circumstances, a person might be estopped from challenging paternity where that person has by his or her conduct accepted a given person as father of the child.”

See, e.g., Commonwealth ex. rel. Palchinski v. Palchniski, 253 Pa. Super. 171, 383 A.2d 1285 (1978); Commonwealth ex. rel. Andreas, 245 Pa. Super. 307, 369 A.2d 416 (1976). “[Paternity by estoppel] is a principle which applies to prevent a party from assuming a position or asserting a right to another’s disadvantage inconsistent with a position previously taken.” See Andreas, 369 A.2d at 418 (citation omitted). Under equity principles parental relationships can be established constructively and these relationships and their corresponding duties “merit judicial recognition and enforcement.” See Manze v. Manze, 362 Pa. Super 153, 161, 523 A.2d 821 (1987).

The equitable principle is now held not only to bar parents from disavowing a previously held position, but also third-party litigants, as well.

See In the Matter of Green, 439 Pa. Super. 606, 650 A.2d 1072, 1075 (1994) (holding that the doctrine is applicable against an agency such as that the Department of Human Services (“DHS”), operating in the best interest of a child, just as it would apply to a mother challenging a father’s paternity or a father attempting to prove or disprove his own paternity; see also, Lebanon CCYS v. Wagner, 2008 Pa. Super. 102, 948 A.2d 871 (2008) (standing for the same proposition).

If paternity by estoppel was not applied to those outside of the parental unit, the equitable principles behind the theory would be rendered meaningless. The courts are bound to preserve the parental relationship where it may. See id.

Specifically, the Superior Court has explained that, in keeping with the Commonwealth’s interest in protecting its children and securing their financial support from their parents:

Absent any overriding equities in favor of the putative father, such as fraud, the law cannot permit a party to renounce even an assumed duty of parentage when by doing so, the innocent child would be victimized. Relying upon the representation of the parental relationship, a child naturally and normally extends his love and affection to the putative parent. The representation of parentage inevitably obscures the identity and whereabouts of the natural father, so that the child will be denied the love, affection and support of the natural father. As time wears on, the fiction of parentage reduces the likelihood that the child will ever have the opportunity of knowing or receiving the love of his natural father. While the law cannot prohibit the putative father from informing the child of their true relationship, it can prohibit him from employing the sanctions of the law to avoid the obligations that their assumed relationship would otherwise impose.

Andreas, 369 A.2d at 418.

The General Assembly has also now codified the principle of paternity by estoppel in 23 Pa. C.S.A. § 5102(b), which states:

Children; Legitimacy, determination of paternity

(b) For purposes of prescribed benefits to children born out of wedlock by, from and through the father, paternity shall be determined by any one of the following ways:

  1. If the parents of a child born out of wedlock have married each other.
  2. If during the lifetime of a the child, the father openly holds out the child to be his and receives the child into his home, or openly holds the child to be his and provides support for the child which shall be determined by clear and convincing evidence.
  3. If there is clear and convincing evidence that the man was the father of the child, which may include a prior determination of paternity.

Importantly, if paternity by estoppel is applied, blood testing to disaffirm or establish alternative paternity is wholly inadmissible and irrelevant, as the same would be barred under the principles of the doctrine. Section 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 5104(c), in relevant part, states that in any case in which paternity is at issue, the court, upon its own or by suggestion of any person whose blood is involved, so as not to delay proceedings, shall order the mother, child and alleged father to submit to blood tests. Id. However, where traditional notions of paternity by estoppel are applicable, blood tests may well be irrelevant, for the law will not permit a person in these situations to challenge a status which he or she has previously accepted.

See, e.g., Commonwealth ex rel. Gonzalez v. Andreas, 245 Pa. Super. 307, 369 A.2d 416 (1976); Commonwealth ex rel. Palchinski v. Palchinski, 253 Pa. Super. 171, 384 A.2d 1285 (1987); In the Matter of Michael Ronald Montenegro, Jr., 365 Pa. Super. 98 (1987); Gulla v. Fitzpatrick, 408 Pa. Super. 269 (1991); Seger v. Seger, 377 Pa. Super. 391, 547 A.2d 424 (1988); Cf. Wieland v. Wieland, 948 A.2d 863 (2008) (in a support proceeding between a husband and wife and third-party biological father blood testing was warranted, as the presumption of paternity and equity principles were not relevant and there was no current support order in effect).

In fact, the Superior Court has recently affirmed the position that a third party may also be barred by the paternity by estoppel doctrine from introducing DNA evidence to establish paternity.

In a distinctly similar case to K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S., the Superior Court recently applied the paternity by estoppel doctrine to bar a third-party, alleged biological father, from challenging a putative father’s parental status by the introduction of DNA evidence. See B.K.B. v. J.G.K. v. M.M.K., 954 A.2d 630 (Pa. Super. 2008). Although in B.K.B. the child at issue was born during the mother and father’s marriage, the reasoning of the case is entirely applicable to K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S.. In B.K.B., a former husband petitioned for primary custody of the child arguing, among other things, that mother was currently engaged in a relationship with the child’s alleged biological father and she was threatening to reveal to the child her biological father’s true identity. The alleged biological father petitioned to intervene in the parents’ custody dispute, requesting partial custody and alleging that DNA testing established that he was the natural father of the child. The trial court denied biological father’s petition and he appealed.

The Superior Court held that the alleged biological father was estopped from challenging former husband’s paternity and, therefore, blood testing was irrelevant and inadmissible evidence. It noted that, upon the child’s conception, mother continuously assured her husband that he was the child’s father, she named him as the father on the child’s birth certificate, he was present at the child’s birth, the child had his last name, he was involved in the child’s school activities, rearing and religious upbringing, he covered the child under his medical insurance policy and, generally, held the child out as his own both during and after the marriage to the child’s mother, all of which mother acquiesced in. Id. at 635. Clearly, the former husband and the child had established a father-son relationship that never waivered during the child’s entire nine year’s of life. Id. at 635-36. There was never a question regarding paternity until mother made an allegation at a second custody hearing that former husband was not the child’s biological father and then only a second time when the alleged biological father attempted to intervene nine years after birth. Id.

In contrast, the alleged biological father was found to have voluntarily accepted former husband’s status as the child’s father for the first nine years of the child’s life without any efforts to challenge paternity. In fact, the record showed that the biological father never attempted to financially or emotionally support the child, nor intervene as a “father” in any meaningful way for the first nine years of the child’s life. Id. at 635-36. To introduce a second father at this time, the Court opined, would serve only to invoke further damaging trauma ‘that may come from being told that the father he has known all his life is not in fact his father.’” Id. at 636 (citing Brinkley v. King, 549 Pa. 211, 701 A.2d 176, 180 (1997). “[D]ue to his inaction for a period of nine years encompassing the birth of [the child] until his petition to intervene, [the Court held], [biological father] is estopped from asserting that former husband is not the biological parent of [the child]. Id. at 636 (citations omitted). Because paternity by estoppel was applied to bar a party’s attempts to assert parental rights, results of DNA testing to establish parentage were also barred. B.K.B., 954 A.2d at 637. The Court relied on the reasoning of Buccieri v. Campagna, 889 A.2d 1220 (Pa. Super. 2005), which previously held that a potential biological father’s delay and inactivity for eight years barred him from confirming or asserting his paternity through genetic tests. See Buccieri, 889 A.2d at 1227 (holding that the potential biological father was estopped by his own past conduct from obtaining genetic tests to establish his paternity and/or assert paternal rights).

The case law, therefore, supports the proposition that a potential biological father who voluntarily accepts a putative father’s role in a child’s life for a significant period of time, shall be barred from asserting any parental rights over the child. See e.g., C.T.D. v. N.E.E. and M.C.E., 439 Pa. Super. 58, 653 A.2d 28 (1995) (finding that a potential biological father’s failure to act in child’s first two years of life, so as to constitute abandonment, may preclude him from now raising a claim of paternity, including the utilization of blood testing and remanded the case for such inquiry); see also Strayer v. Ryan, 725 A.2d 785, 786 (Pa. Super.1999) (even in the context of a child born out of wedlock, when estoppel principles apply, blood testing may not be warranted to challenge paternity).

The case of Moyer v. Gresh, 904 A.2d 958 (Pa. Super. 2006), further buttresses putative father’s position in K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S that paternity by estoppel bars the biological father’s belated attempts to intervene. In Moyer, mother and the putative father were married when the child was born. The couple acted as an intact family unit, sharing in all the responsibilities of rearing the child, including attending doctor visits, participating in school and recreational activities, and providing financial support. After the parties divorced, the putative father continued to assume responsibility for child’s well-being, including maintaining child’s health care and fostering a continued close relationship for at least nine years. Id. at 960-961. Mother and biological father, who had never been involved in child’s life before, became romantically involved and later married. Upon their marriage, biological father claimed child as a dependant, carried his health insurance, and became involved in most other aspects of child’s life. Biological father then filed a Petition for Custody of the child. Id. The court held that, because the biological father voluntarily relinquished his parental rights as evidenced by his conduct during the first nine years of the child’s life, and allowed former husband to continue supporting child when child was living with biological mother and father after mother’s divorce, father accepted former husband as the child’s actual father and must be barred from challenging the former husband’s paternity. Id. at 962-963.

These estoppel principles are applied to produce fair and just results. Although Moyer occurred in the context of a former husband and wife, the principle advanced by its reasoning is wholly applicable to K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S.

Essentially, this Commonwealth does not want children to go fatherless in either a financial sense or a psychological or emotional sense.

Consequently, if an individual has either held himself out to be the father of a child (both caring for that child emotionally and financially) and others have not timely challenged this assumed status, the law is not going to order blood testing to interfere with that established relationship.

Applying the law of “paternity by estopple” to K.Y. v. M.D. and K.S., Cooley & Handy argued that putative father could not now be disavowed of the parental status that he has assumed for all of the child’s life and which has been previously determined through Court proceedings. See B.K.B., 954 A.2d at 635-36. Biological father, by his own testimony, voluntarily supported putative father’s assumed parental status for years without making any efforts to assert his alleged parental rights. Because he had always accepted putative father’s parental status over the child, the law dictated that biological father could not challenge that status by the introduction of DNA testing. See Buccieri, 889 A.2d at 1227. From the time mother learned of her pregnancy, biological father knew that there was a chance that he had fathered the child. Notwithstanding this knowledge and his conversations with mother regarding her pregnancy, he chose to allow putative father to assume all parental duties over the child from the time of her birth until 2008 – approximately 8 ½ years later. In that entire duration of time, regardless of the commentary from neighbors that the child looked like him, he sat back and assumed no responsibility over the child. Clearly, as evidenced by his filing a petition for custody in 2008, he knew all along that he had access to the court system as a venue to assert his rights. Interestingly, even after he filed his petition for custody, he continued to offer the child no financial support whatsoever.

Due to biological father’s inactivity for 8 ½ years encompassing the child’s birth in August 2000 until his petition for custody filed in September 2008, and based on the prior determinations as to putative father’s parentage, Cooley & Handy argued that biological father should be barred from asserting that putative father is not the biological parent of the child. See B.K.B. 954 A.2d at 637. The Pennsylvania Superior Court has indicated that a failure to act in much less time may very well be deemed an abandonment of one’s parental rights so as to preclude any intervention in a putative father’s relationship with his child. Surely 8 ½ years is too long. See C.T.D., 439 A.2d at 63.

In contrast to biological father, Cooley & Handy argued that putative father had been present in the child’s life since her conception. He had never wavered in his efforts at providing her with the utmost love, emotional and financial support. Initially he and mother lived with the child as a family. Although mother’s and putative father’s relationship ended, he always had equal physical and legal custody of the child and has served as her putative father in every aspect of her life. There was never any accusation or assertion that he had not provided for her financially or otherwise. Putative father was also never subjected to DNA testing and has never questioned his paternity. At all relevant times, putative father was unaware that there could be another potential father. By mother’s own account, the child considers putative father her “dad” and mother and putative father have done their best to provide the child with stability and love throughout the child’s life.

To introduce another father at this late time, Cooley & Handy argued, would only serve to cause the child total confusion and emotional trauma. The Commonwealth’s primary interest is in ensuring that a child has the financial and emotional support of her parents and that the courts are acting in the child’s best interest. It will not sever sound ties between a father and child, threatening to cause the child significant confusion and psychological dismay, simply based on the untimely, and questionable, intervention of a potential father who easily could have asserted his potential rights at the time of conception or soon thereafter. See Andreas, 369 A.2d 416. Biological father’s belated interest in his potential fatherhood cannot serve as a basis in which to sever a meaningful father-daughter relationship that he voluntarily supported for 8 ½ years. To do so would only serve to cause irreparable damage to the child and to her relationship with her putative father. See id.

In the end, the trial court accepted Cooley & Handy’s arguments and dismissed biological father’s Complaint for Custody with prejudice.

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Cooley & Handy Challenges Contempt Order Sanctioning Father $2,000.00 for Cursing in Front of His Ex-Wife and Daughter on First Amendment Grounds

Father Claims that Bucks County Judge’s Custody Contempt Order Prohibiting Him From Using “Inappropriate” Language Constitutes an Illegal and Unenforceable Prior Restraint on Free Speech

Doylestown, Pa (April 24, 2009) – A father in a custody dispute is challenging a contempt order entered by a Bucks County judge that sanctioned him $2,000.00 for violating a custody order requiring him not to use profanity or inappropriate language around his daughter and the child’s mother.

The specific language of the custody order, entered by the Hon. Wallace H. Bateman, Jr., requires the father to “refrain from using any profanity when dealing with mother and mother’s husband, and using any type of language around the children that’s inappropriate.”

Judge Bateman held father in contempt and sanctioned him $2,000.00 in attorney fees for violating the order after he admittedly used profanities during a custody exchange.

Father has appealed the finding of contempt and the sanctions to the Superior Court of Pennsylvania based on the First and Fourteenth Amendments to the United States Constitution. “This is a classic example of an illegal and unenforceable prior restraint on free speech” according to the father’s attorney, Kevin J. Handy, a partner at the Doylestown law firm of Cooley & Handy.

The Supreme Court of the United States defines prior restraints on free speech as “administrative and judicial orders forbidding certain communications when issued in advance of the time that such communication are to occur.”

Prior restraints carry a heavy presumption of unconstitutionality. They are permissible in only exceptional cases such as war, obscenity and incitements to acts of violence and the overthrow of force by the government. Orders issued regarding First Amendment rights must be framed in the narrowest of terms so as not to prohibit or infringe on any constitutionally protected speech.

That is part of the problem with the order according to Mr. Handy. “Not only does the order prohibit clearly constitutionally protected speech, it is unconstitutionally vague and subject to arbitrary and discriminatory enforcement. Who gets to determine what speech is ’inappropriate’ and under what standards? The Supreme Court noted in Cohen v. California that courts and legislatures cannot limit speech to appease the most squeamish among us.”

Judges in custody cases often enter orders that purport to restrict what one or both parents may say to each other or around their children.

These provisions, however, are rarely enforced through contempt or sanctions or challenged on appeal.

The Court of Appeals of Washington, however, in a similar case, recently held that an order in a custody dispute prohibiting a father from contacting immigration or other governmental official concerning his ex-wife’s immigration status constituted an illegal prior restraint. The case is In re the Marriage of Meredith.

“Parents to custody disputes have no less constitutional rights than parents in intact families or other individuals” claims Mr. Handy. “A judge may no more restrict a parent’s use of language that he subjectively finds objectionable than the government can for any other group or individual.”

Mr. Handy notes that Father is not arguing in his appeal that judges cannot take into consideration profanity use or other constitutionally protected speech in formulating their custody decisions. “That issue is for another day,” states Mr. Handy. “Father is only claiming that judges in custody cases cannot prohibit or sanction constitutionally protected speech.”

Cooley & Handy represents individuals in personal injury, class action, divorce, custody, and other litigation in Bucks, Montgomery and Philadelphia Counties and throughout Pennsylvania.

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Intelligencer Columnist Lends Support to Cooley & Handy’s Appeal of Custody Contempt Fine Based on Father’s First Amendment Rights

Four Letters, Two Grand

By Phil Gianficano, Daily Intelligencer

May 3, 2009 – A Bucks County Judge recently instructed a Northampton man involved in a custody dispute to stop cussing when in the presence of his 9-year old daughter.

The judge subsequently learned the man violated terms of the agreement and uttered a four-letter word in front of the girl.

The word was not flock, but I’m guessing it probably and started and ended with those same letters. That would not be a surprise, since that cuss word is the champagne of four-letter words.

When Judge Wallace Bateman learned last month the man violated the custody order, he handed down a contempt order and fined him $2,000.

And by doing so seemed to have kicked freedom of speech in the shins.

Look, I agree the father should know better. Of course she shouldn’t cuss around his young daughter. No one should. It’s a dirty, nasty habit for many adults. Kids are thirsty sponges. You fire off a cuss word, they’re sure to sop it up. And chances are they’ll wring the dirty water on someone else.

My wife and I have two young ones, ages 7 ½ and 4 ½. Before the kids were born, and it was just the two of us in the house, I’d fire off cuss words like I was Buddy Hackett doing the midnight show in Vegas. Whenever one of my favorite sports teams was making like the Bad News Bear on TV, I’d paint the room with so much blue you’d swear we were having another boy.

But that was then.

Now with those two little sponges around, my colorful outbursts have become nearly non-existent. And when they do occur, it’s after their bedtime.

“I can’t believe he tried to go from second to third on a routine grounder too short! What the f…uuudge is he doing? Hey, honey, do you think the kids are asleep yet?”

And remember, my f-bombs were dropped without the incredible level of stress from a custody case tightening around my head like a vice.

Again, the father should know better. But two grand for dropping that word? That’s the going rate now?

What if the father was really ticked off at the child’s mom – she and he were never married, by the way – and he blurted out something worse? What does Judge Bateman do then, fine him 10 grand and give him 5-to-10 in Grateford?

Again, the father should know better. But should his lack of decorum when in presence of his child trump his constitutional rights?

The answer could lay in the hands of state Supreme Court as the father’s attorney, Kevin Handy of Doylestown, has appealed the fine to the high court. But his client could be waiting awhile for the ruling as it may take the court several months to even consider the appeal.

Of course, the father might not get much sympathy from at least one of the Supreme Court judges provided the case gets that far. The Hon. Seamus McCaffery is that former gavel-wielding Philadelphia judge who presided over an ad hoc court in the basement of Veterans Stadium during Eagles games in the late 1990s. No-nonsense Seamus handed out fines and jail time to rowdy fans arrested during games like he was handing out candy on Halloween.

In the meantime, the father had best keep a lid on the f-bombs when he’s around his kid.

At $500 a letter, venting can be an expensive habit to keep.

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Pennsylvania Abuse of Process Lawsuit Arising out of Contentious Custody Litigation Dismissed

December 31, 2008 – Cooley & Handy recently secured the dismissal of a frivolous “abuse of process” lawsuit filed against one of its clients.

The abuse of process lawsuit arouse out of contentious and on-going custody litigation pending in Bucks County. Cooley & Handy also represented the mother in the custody litigation. In the underlying custody litigation, Cooley & Handy was able to secure the mother a series of victories.  These included court orders and agreements in which mother was awarded additional custody time with her children. At every stage of the custody litigation, father vigorously opposed mother’s attempts to secure additional custody time.

Apparently frustrated by mother’s and Cooley & Handy’s success in the custody litigation, father resorted to filing a frivolous civil lawsuit against Mother.

He claimed that mother had abused the custody litigation process by forcing him to make what he viewed as “unwarranted custody concession.”

Honorable Theodore Fritch, Jr. issued a memorandum opinion issued on December 31, 2008 in the Bucks County Court of Common Pleas. The Court granted mother’s preliminary objections to father’s civil complaint, and dismissed the complaint in its entirety with prejudice. Accepting Cooley & Handy’s arguments, the court found that father could not state a claim for abuse of process based on the custody petitions that mother had filed. This is particularly true where mother was successful on her petitions and had obtained additional time with her children.

Further, in his well-reasoned decision, Judge Fritch found that it would be extremely unlikely that a litigant could ever state at claim for abuse of process based on a parent’s attempt to obtain custody of his or her child. According to the court, “to do so would discourage parents from making attempts to communicate or reconcile with their children, a result [the courts] will not support.” Permitting such claims to proceed would be “contrary to public policy.”

As a result of Cooley & Handy’s efforts, parents can continue to feel secure in their right to seek custody of their children without the threat of collateral litigation aimed at exhausting their emotional and financial wherewithal.

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